Day 30 of 31
Today I visited my Dad. He lives 3 1/2 hours from me so I got up early and drove from my house in New Jersey down to Maryland. I haven’t see him in person since Christmas 2019 because of Covid, (aren’t we all tired of saying that?) but now that he and his wife are vaccinated, and I am too, I wanted to see him. My husband has not yet been vaccinated so I made the round trip solo.
My dad will turn 86 later this week and although I am 55 he still worries about me driving alone. I never really understood why he worried about me so much, but now that all three of my girls drive I completely get it. Even when I was young he would always ask me to call as soon as I got home and I would, but often calling him would slip my mind until long after I was home. Today as soon as I pulled into the driveway I called him. I have a new appreciation for the worry he has for me.
Of course after visiting him, I now worry about him. In many ways he is still the same dad as always. He likes to eat food he shouldn’t. He is quiet but he knows what is going on. He loves living on the water and he likes to talk about real estate. Although he and my mother were divorced when I was young, he has given me a sense of stability throughout my life. He is ALWAYS there for me if I call and I know he loves me. Over the last decade he has had some pretty significant health issues and I can see that they have taken a physical toll on him. He doesn’t complain about his issues aside from the occasional “It’s hard to get old” and “I can’t believe I am old enough to have a daughter who is 55”. Of course, he takes a lot longer to get from one place to another and getting in and out of the car is harder for him than it used to be. But I also know that I am so lucky to still have him.